self love – Binh Doan

December 29, 2025

The Quiet Space Between Years

There’s a strange, gentle pause that lives between Christmas and New Year.

The emails slow.

The noise softens.

Time feels less demanding.

It’s not quite the end, and not quite the beginning.

And I think we rush this space too often.

We’re quick to label the year as good or bad.

We want neat summaries, clean lessons, tidy growth.

But real life isn’t bullet-pointed.

Some things this year were clear wins.

Some were quiet losses no one else noticed.

Some are still unfinished and that doesn’t mean they failed.

I’ve learned that reflection doesn’t always need answers.

Sometimes it just needs honesty.

Not What did I achieve?

But What did I carry?

What did I carry when things felt uncertain?

What did I carry when motivation dipped?

Growth isn’t always loud.

Often it looks like staying.

Like pausing.

Like choosing not to quit on yourself.

As this year closes, I’m not rushing to redesign my life.

I’m simply acknowledging it.

The effort.

The stretch.

The stillness.

The becoming.

If you’re reading this in that in-between space – tired, reflective, hopeful, unsure, then you’re exactly where you need to be.

You don’t need a new version of yourself by midnight.

You don’t need a perfect plan.

You’re allowed to arrive in the new year as you are.

Quietly.

Honestly.

Intact.

Wishing you a steady and kind year ahead.

Bình

December 25, 2025December 25, 2025

Why I Don’t Do New Year Resolutions Anymore

Every January, we’re encouraged to reset our lives.

New habits.

New goals.

A better version of ourselves.

For a long time, I played along. But over time, I’ve stepped away from New Year resolutions, not because growth doesn’t matter, but because the way we frame change matters more than we realise.

Resolutions are built on pressure.

Most resolutions rely on discipline and willpower, as if these are unlimited resources. They rarely account for fatigue, emotional load, unexpected events, or the complexity of real life.

When a resolution falls apart, the story becomes personal: I didn’t try hard enough.

Rarely do we question whether the plan itself was realistic.

A calendar date doesn’t create readiness.

Change doesn’t happen because the year changed.

Readiness comes from awareness, capacity, timing, and support. January can be reflective, quiet, or simply about regaining balance. Expecting transformation on demand ignores how change actually works.

The all-or-nothing trap!

Resolutions often create rigid rules.

Miss a day, and the momentum disappears. Miss a week, and the resolution feels broken. This pattern leads to guilt, then avoidance, rather than sustainable growth.

Real change is adaptive, not absolute.

What I choose instead:

Instead of resolutions, I choose direction.

Direction allows flexibility. It adjusts to hard weeks and changing circumstances.

Rather than asking “What must I achieve?” I ask: What do I want more of this year? What do I want less of? What needs protecting?

This creates movement without pressure.

Process over outcomes.

Outcomes are visible. Processes are transformative.

Rather than focusing on end results, I pay attention to:

How I structure my days. How I speak to myself. How I respond when plans change. How I return after pauses.

These shifts may look small, but they’re the ones that last.

A gentler alternative:

If resolutions don’t sit right with you, try this instead:

This year, I’m committed to supporting myself by ______.

For instance:

This year, I’m committed to supporting myself by…

…protecting my energy as carefully as my time.

…choosing consistency over intensity.

…allowing progress to be uneven without judging it.

No deadlines.

No streaks.

No failure.

Just intention and responsiveness.

Moving into the year differently.

You don’t need to reinvent yourself in January.

You don’t need a dramatic plan.

You need something that respects your capacity and allows growth at a human pace.

“Change happens not when we push harder, but when we listen more closely.”

Have a fantastic year ahead! 💫

Bình

December 23, 2025December 23, 2025

12 Lessons 2025 Taught Me

From acting, business, pole, yoga, travel, and relationships

2025 wasn’t a year of dramatic reinvention.

It was a year of refinement.

It’s a year where different parts of my life – acting, running a business, pole, yoga, travel, and relationships quietly started talking to each other. Patterns repeated. Lessons echoed. And slowly, things began to integrate.

Here are 12 lessons 2025 taught me.

1. Craft beats talent every time

Acting reminded me of this daily.

Talent might get you noticed, but craft keeps you grounded, employable, and calm under pressure. The same applies to business, teaching, and even relationships as showing up prepared is an act of respect.

2. Consistency matters more than intensity

Pole training taught me that dramatic bursts lead to burnout.

Slow, steady practice especially on the days I didn’t feel like it created real progress. The body remembers what the ego forgets.

3. Boundaries are a form of generosity

In business, clearer boundaries didn’t reduce connection – they improved it.

Clients felt safer. I felt less depleted. Saying no early prevented resentment later.

4. Strength without softness is incomplete

Yoga reminded me that flexibility isn’t weakness.

The strongest shapes came when I stopped forcing and started listening on the mat and in life.

5. You don’t need to be everything to everyone

Acting rooms, auditions, and creative spaces reinforced this truth.

The goal isn’t to be right for everyone but to be specific. The right people find you when you stop trying to blend in.

6. Rest is productive even when it looks like nothing

Some of my best ideas arrived after pauses, not pushes.

Travel days, quiet mornings, moments of stillness – they weren’t wasted time. They were incubation.

7. Your body tells the truth faster than your mind

Pole and yoga made this undeniable.

Tension, fatigue, resistance – these signals appeared before my thoughts caught up. Learning to listen saved me from pushing past my limits unnecessarily.

8. Systems create freedom

In business, structure wasn’t restrictive – it was liberating.

Clear systems meant fewer decisions, less mental clutter, and more energy for creativity and connection.

9. Not every relationship is meant to last forever

Some relationships are seasonal.

2025 taught me to honour what was shared without forcing longevity. Letting go gracefully became a skill not a failure.

10. Confidence grows through repetition not affirmation

Whether on stage, on the pole, or in front of a room – confidence arrived after doing the thing many times, imperfectly.

11. Travel teaches humility

Different cultures, languages, and rhythms reminded me how small and connected we all are.

Travel softened my judgments and widened my patience.

12. Integration is the real work

The biggest lesson of 2025 wasn’t found in any single area.

It was in noticing how everything overlaps.

Acting sharpened my presence

Yoga grounded my nervous system

Pole strengthened my discipline

Business clarified my values

Relationships mirrored my growth

Travel expanded my perspective

Nothing existed in isolation anymore.

Closing reflection

2025 didn’t ask me to become someone new.

It asked me to become more whole.

Less proving.

More trusting.

Less rushing.

More listening.

And if there’s one thing I’m carrying into the next year, it’s this

Growth doesn’t always look loud. Sometimes it looks like alignment.

Thank you for reading. I hope that these lessons have been helpful and in some ways reflective of your year too!

Wishing you and your loved ones good health and a fantastic year ahead!

Bình

February 8, 2025

Finding Balance: Juggling It All

So, you’re wondering how I manage everything from stand-up comedy classes and acting, to pole fitness, jiu-jitsu, and a full-time gig in speech pathology? Well, it’s definitely a mix of fun and frantic, but here’s how I keep things rolling without dropping the ball.

1. Setting goals

Each activity I’m into has its own vibe and purpose. Comedy keeps me on my toes, acting builds my empathy, pole and jiu-jitsu keep me fit, and my day job? Well, that’s where I get to make a real difference helping people communicate. I set clear goals for each to make sure they’re not just random things I do, but integral parts of who I am and want to be.

2. Time management

This is key. I’ve got a digital calendar that’s color-coded and blocked out for each activity. It sounds a bit much, but it helps me ensure I’m dedicating enough time to each without overbooking myself.

3. Self-care

Can’t stress this enough. With a schedule like mine, running out of juice is a real risk. So, I make sure to get enough sleep, eat right, weekly massages, and throw some yoga/mindfulness into the mix. It keeps my energy up so I can keep up with everything I’ve set out to do.

4. Stay flexible

Plans change and so do my energy levels. Some days, the best move is to skip the gym for some extra downtime. Being flexible means I can adjust on the go, which keeps me from burning out.

5. Connect the dots

Linking what I learn and experience in one area of my life to others helps too. The confidence from acting and comedy? It’s gold when I’m at work. Everything feeds into everything else in some way.

6. Lean on your squad

It’s tough to manage all this on your own. I’ve got friends, fellow hobbyists, and co-workers who get the hustle. They’re great for bouncing ideas off or venting when things become difficult.

7. Check-in with yourself

Every now and then, I take a step back to see what’s working and what’s not. It’s about being honest with myself and tweaking things if something feels off, like cutting back on an activity that no longer fits.

Balancing a bunch of passions with work is crazy but fulfilling. It’s all about enjoying the ride without getting overwhelmed. Organize, prioritize, and be ready to adapt. That’s how you make it work without losing your cool.

Comment below if you have any other tips and tricks.

Cheers,

Binh

Empowering voices, Enriching lives

January 16, 2025

How to Stay Motivated for the New Year 2025

As we step into 2025, it’s the perfect time to set intentions and recharge our motivation. The new year is like a blank page—full of opportunities to grow, achieve, and thrive.

But how can we maintain that fresh-start energy long after January?

Over the years, I’ve gathered these strategies from experts in personal development, including insights from James Clear (author of Atomic Habits), Dr. Angela Duckworth (author of Grit), and the wisdom shared by life coaches and psychologists in various workshops. Here’s what I’ve learned:

1. Set Clear Goals

Define what success looks like for you this year. Break big goals into smaller, actionable steps, and celebrate each win along the way. James Clear emphasizes that “systems are more important than goals”—focus on daily habits that align with your vision.

2. Focus on Your “Why”

Motivation flourishes when you have a strong reason behind your goals. Dr. Angela Duckworth’s research highlights the power of purpose in sustaining grit. Ask yourself, Why do I want this? Keeping your “why” front and center builds resilience.

3. Build a Positive Routine

Consistency beats perfection. Start your mornings with habits that inspire you—a quick workout, journaling, or savoring your coffee without distractions. James Clear advises starting small and building momentum, proving that tiny habits lead to big changes over time.

4. Surround Yourself with Positivity

Your environment matters. Life coach Tony Robbins often emphasizes the impact of those you spend time with. Surround yourself with people who encourage you, inspiring books, or motivational podcasts. Positive energy is contagious.

5. Embrace Flexibility

Life is unpredictable. Instead of seeing obstacles as failures, view them as detours to learn and grow. Experts like psychologist Carol Dweck advocate for a growth mindset—an attitude that helps you adapt and thrive.

6. Reflect and Recalibrate

Check in with yourself regularly. Are your goals still aligning with your values? Reflection keeps you focused and ensures you’re heading in the right direction. Many high achievers, like Oprah Winfrey, stress the importance of self-assessment to stay motivated.

As 2025 unfolds, remember: motivation isn’t a constant—it’s something you cultivate. Show up for yourself daily, and by the time 2026 rolls around, you’ll be amazed at how far you’ve come.

Happy New Year! 🎉

Binh

May 26, 2022May 26, 2022

If you don’t like where you are, move. You are not a tree. 🌲

For me, this quote is deep-rooted (no pun intended) in my life motto.

At 15, I wasn’t performing well academically and didn’t like the school where I was at, so I asked my parents to move me to another school – in Australia. That shook things up and I had no choice but trying my hardest to study English and a whole new system.

Last year, I was part of a volunteering team where I was disrespected and humiliated in front of many people by my supervisor. We were meant to work together as a team. I left the next day after telling them how I felt.

My brother and I went to see a movie where the people behind us were talking loudly. We’d politely asked them to keep the noise down and they continued to talk to each other. So we moved to the front where it was quiet – after checking to make sure that the seats were available.

At times it feels like we have no choice but staying in the same job that we don’t enjoy for many years, being in the same living condition that is uncomfortable, having the same circle of friends that we’ve grown out of, speaking up for ourselves and others etc. We are afraid of leaving as we fear of the unknown or people might judge us.

But we always have a choice – a choice to be happy in doing what we want in life!

Definitely not a tree!

Bình

May 25, 2022May 25, 2022